How to be Popular~A different approach

So you wanna be popular, right? Well maybe you should start off by brushing off that unconfident attitude of yours. Chances are that if you’re reading this you don’t really feel like you can do anything to make yourself popular by yourself. Stop that right now. Rule #1 to getting popular is that you must make yourself mentally a force to be reckoned with. If you do not believe that you can be popular in the first place, how will you truly achieve popularity at all?

Start out with practical things, rather than appeals to emotion. You should strive to meet everyone you see with a smile and a chill, but not too chill, attitude. Furthermore in this way, if it’s possible at any given time, you should seek to meet these people and get to know them (especially if they’re people you expect to meet quite frequently). Make a good individual impression on everyone you meet. Just be chill, don’t try and talk about outwardly things, and just make yourself extremely presentable.

While also making a good everyday impression on people individually, you should seek to make your public image quite impressive. I would recommend you aim for a caring and cool type of public image by going to events like football games and prom, while also doing service (service in helping the elderly or mentally deficient especially make you look credible). Have a plan regarding how you should go about this and you should have your general kindness intact.

The hard part comes outside of practical matters; this area is the social matters. Social matters can be very sticky because here you’re not just being looked at on the outside, you’re being judged by people. Being judged for your character only goes so deep as long as you’re prudent about what parts of you are left out. Assuming that you’re a good person, you must be able to pull the best and more easily loved qualities you possess from you. In this regard, start off with what you’ve practiced all along, kindness. When truly talking to people, you need to go beyond kindness. A popular person (in the way we’re aiming for) should seem more mature and deeper than the people around him or her. If you can bring in an important concept or idea amongst a group of people you frequently hang out with, it is almost a garuntee that their respect for you, as well as the respect of others that they tell you about, will go up.

Lastly, the most important concept to grasp is the ability to talk. If you can’t really reach out to people and tell them who you really are eventually, you just won’t be that popular. Even if you are seen as a local hero and cool person, no one will actually really like you as a person unless you’re able to connect with them in the most deep way; this cannot be in a group, but rather individually. Earn the respect of people’s hearts, not just their minds, and I promise you’ll be more than “popular” in the normal regard.

If you came to this essay expecting how to be a popular guy that smokes, gets all the girls, and all that nasty garbage, well you probably should have stopped reading after the first paragraph. The true road to popularity, popularity that will make you happy both on the inside and outside, is the road of kindness.