Response to thw war on men

 In The war on men by Suzanne Venker brings up that since 1997 the number of women that find marriage one of the most important things in their lives and that the number has risen from 28-37 percent. But the number of men wanting to get married has dropped. The reason why she has discovered is that “Women aren’t women anymore.” Women have become  a majority in the work force and this is what is starting to cause the division. Women are starting to change, pushing men of their pedestal. This is where my view really starts to differ from Venker. I do agree that there are less men wanting to get married than women now and that more and more women are entering the job and that it does through things off from what they used to be. But it isn’t necessarily a thing that should be looked down upon. She talks about women look to men as the enemy and this anger has ruined the relationship between men and women and I agree it has changed the relationship but not ruined it. I believe that things are changing but for the good. It is a good thing that women are now out there competing for the same jobs as men. She has said that “ Men want to love women, not compete with them…But modern women won’t let them.” Men can certaintly love women that compete with them and that if men are that bothered they should change their mindset. Especially in this economy its just not possible for women to not be working for most families. Women have become stronger and that’s a good thing.

I  more agree with Michael Kimmel’s article The mythical ‘war on men’. He went on a talking to men who then said that they were discriminated against by women. At the end one of the saying that “A black woman stole my job.” Kimmel responded by asking “Why did the men think that it was their job?”. That is a great question to begin with. Who is to assume that any type of job belongs to them. Why are men to think that they are that entitled to something. Since there are now more women in the workforce there are more men who see this as women taking their jobs and in reality it  is just things becoming equal and that is a good thing. He also brings up another good point from the venker article that “she is actually arguing that men aren’t happy, it’s women’s fault..”. I do agree that instead women are now encouraged to go for what they want, leave abusive or unhappy marriages and gout and provide for their families their way, even causing men to become more involved in their family life.  He provides the statistic that men are actually assuming now that women would also get careers and want to be more involved in raising a family. He is right to say that there isn’t a war between the sexes going on.